As a child, I was convinced I was going to be successful.
But then real life followed. And with it came badly paid jobs, unfulfilled ideas and a lot of hard work for little money.
“Be realistic” said those around me and, eventually, my internal voice, too.
It was only after reading The Magic of Thinking Big that I finally got it.
Mindset is everything.
It’s the difference between those who fulfil their potential and those who don’t. And every time your mind shoots down a dream or big idea out of self-doubt, you’re saying no to yourself.
So here I am, ready and refusing to let self-limitations stop me for a second longer. Here’s how I’m teaching myself to think big in 2017, and you can too:
Learn the art of visualisation
I know. When I first heard that term, it reminded me of lovestruck teenage girls with boyband-inspired mood boards, too. But visualising what your definition of ‘success’ looks like can have a powerful psychological effect. Just ask any sports star.
Start by imagining yourself achieving your goal(s). Allow your mind to get as detailed as possible. How will it feel? Where will you be? What will change for you? If your mind starts saying "this is stupid", persevere until it stops. Despite my initial reservations, having a daily positive vision is helping me to think big. Much bigger than my limitations.
“Most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year, and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade.” — Tony Robbins.
Practice courage, a little more each day
Easier said than done, but important all the same. Think of uncomfortable situations as opportunities to think differently and learn something new. Note to self: Never compare your courage to someone else’s. Courage isn’t a competition with anyone but yourself. If you’re doing small things on a regular basis that make you feel a little uncomfortable or scared and overcoming them? My friend, that’s courage.
Set attainable goals
Confusing, huh? Thinking big sounds like having lofty ambitions, but actually it’s the opposite. I’ve said it before: unrealistic goals are the route to misery. If things feel unattainable, our limitations resurface. Instead, it’s about being kind to ourselves and setting goals, small but often, that progressively take us to where we want to be. Start with your end goal in mind and work backwards. Baby steps.
Protect your energy
Go where you can grow. Actively seek out people who challenge you to be better. Next time you work on something new, ask someone you admire for their honest opinion. It could be someone you know personally, or someone who you simply email in pursuit of feedback. There’s so much to be learnt from others, if your ego is up to the challenge.
Know your worth
What if 2017 was the year you learnt to believe in yourself?